How do I overcome my social phobia?
I’m only 18 yet I barely have a social life. I’m so focused on being embarrassed and being talked about that I don’t go to parties at all. I hate being in places that were I don’t know anyone and it’s aggravating because I want to come out of my shell, but it’s hard. Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome this?
A good psychologist can help you. Here’s a great website with lots of information on the subject. Best of luck!
http://www.adaa.org/aboutadaa/Introduction.asp
February 27th, 2010 at 1:38 am
Don’t be so embarrassed. Just be yourself and don’t talk bad about people behind their back, and you should get the same back.
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February 27th, 2010 at 2:15 am
you are wise in one aspect
you are wise in distrusting many people. people in your past have likely been untrustworthy or two faced
you may be trapped in a state of distrusting people who are actually trustworthy. but you may never know for sure
because you have high standards.
you expect only the most noble of intentions regarding you.
which means you are noble, righteous, and close to God.
you win!
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February 27th, 2010 at 2:24 am
ahw i know what you mean
don’t worry about being embarrassed, if it happens just brush it off and people won’t reallythink anything of it anymore.
if people talk about you, you’re probably better off without them
try bringing one of two friends with you to some parties, that way worse comes to worse you have someone to talk to, and when you feel comfortable or confident enough just go talk to people
thats what parties are for
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February 27th, 2010 at 2:36 am
The ability to be able to socialize is a big matter of life. Improving social skills takes quite some effort and confidence. Fightthe shyness. If you haven’t already, then you need to do so.Get involved in conversations! You will never get better if you don’t get involved. It’s the only way to improve.Talk to someone you wouldn’t usually talk to.Build self esteem. You will never succeed if you don’t have the confidence. Be casual around people. People like it when you are interesting.
Why do you feel self conscious? Is it the way you look or the way you think you look? Who is judging you and why do you care about their opinions? Figure out who you’re trying to please and why. What kind of expectations are making you so self conscious? Is everyone around you picture perfect, or are you comparing yourself to airbrushed models in magazines? Have you convinced yourself that no one else has twitches, or flaws, or trips? Stop for a second and turn that self-criticism outwards. No one is perfect, and you’ve never noticed their little quirks before, so why would they pay so much attention to yours? Just feel like there’s no need to worry and always picture yourself like you know you look and feel good in front of others, but don’t think about it too much because it will already be embedded.
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February 27th, 2010 at 2:51 am
A good psychologist can help you. Here’s a great website with lots of information on the subject. Best of luck!
http://www.adaa.org/aboutadaa/Introduction.asp
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February 27th, 2010 at 3:29 am
Think about it this way.
They all have their lives. It’s a natural order of things for people to care more about their lives than yours. The reason those people aren’t embarrassed is b/c they have a life to deal with while you’re sitting there dealing with yourself.
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February 27th, 2010 at 4:00 am
start slowly
i suggest asking some of the friends you already have to introduce you to some of their friends
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