Why Behavioral Therapy Alone Does Not Work for Social Anxiety
By Dr. Richards, director of Social Anxiety Institute
*I found this handout yesterday and it gave me an aha as to why my progress was not moving faster. We need the cognitive material really, really sunk into our brains before going out and doing extreme high exposure. Hopefully this will give you some insight into how CBT works.
(HUGS!) to everybody who needs one.
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Tags: anxiety, behavioral, Cognitive, exposure, gettingoversa, social, spiffyrich, therapy
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
I recently …
I recently discovered, I got SA, like for about 2 month ago… I never knew, what was “wrong” with me all the time….thank you very much for loading up all the stuff about it and for sharing your experiences… it really helps some people, I just wanted to say…
greets from germany
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
@BellaaMarlene
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@BellaaMarlene
Yeah, and then they tell you that you’re making excuses for yourself when you disagree with them on that. Been there.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
I decided to stick …
I decided to stick it out though and I started taking baby steps to recovery. I had anxiety attacks every night for a few weeks straight, but I started doing deep breathing and tried to relax every time this happend. Eventually I stop having anxiety attacks. I joined a club which was the scariest thing ever. Now I have friends that I hang out with. Its hard to fit everything I want to say into these comments. SA can be overcome by taking baby steps to recovery. Never ever feel hopeless!
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
I just want to add …
I just want to add that overcoming social anxiety will always make you feel extremely uncomfortable at first. I took a huge step and forced myself to move into the college dorms. I nearly had a mental breakdown in the first week. I literally called my mom at midnight crying about it. Then the next day, I burst into tears during my first conversation with my new roomate. I thought I was going to die.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
overcoming social …
overcoming social anxiety is all about controlling your thoughts and then taking a step that reinforces your new thoughts. i am overcoming social anxiety right now and its ALL about POSITIVE THINKING. You have to tell yourself to shut up when negative thoughts come into your head. I agree that many people dont understand, however, they are partially right. Taking those steps to face a fear coupled with positive thinking is necessary. You need to change your thinking and then act on it.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
i have Anxiety, I …
i have Anxiety, I have made myself thrown up before from it…
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
try and do ‘the …
try and do ‘the work’ by katie byrin
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
LOL I do not have …
LOL I do not have SA but I do not need friends.
I live with my landlord and her son and that initself is way too much interaction!
But I do have social bursts of needing to be OUT THERE but I love the caveman staying in my room as well. I like both sides of social but neither love or hate one or the other. The driving force to be in a cave is crappy drivers on the road and I refuse to get out on busy choked road days.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
you can join a …
you can join a toastmasters club
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
i hate when …
i hate when counselors tell a very shy, fearful person with no friends to “start making friends”
they dont understand
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
Thank you so much, …
Thank you so much, I needed to hear that. I’ve had CBT in the past, it worked really well for me. At the time and don’t think I took full advantage of the techniques and used them through time. Five years later I’m back where I started, but a little older and wiser. I’m going to revisit the therapy, thanks for being my confirmation.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
where can you get …
where can you get training on public speaking?
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
Yes, this is sooooo …
Yes, this is sooooo true ! ! ! Great video.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
couldn’t be more …
couldn’t be more true, exposure does work, but its a matter of controlling/limiting the negative reinforcement you put yourself through before during and after social situations, ie changing your thought process just like she’s saying. this means using CBT to limit things like fortune telling, avoidance tactics, as well as reviewing and critiquing your “performance” after a social situation. these videos are great…. you;re awesome!
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
I’d have thought …
I’d have thought coffee exagerates the already present anxiety. You probably experienced a placebo effect, which just goes to show you that it’s all in our heads.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
I went through 3 …
I went through 3 months of CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and it didn’t help me one bit. I understand my thoughts are irrational, which leads to my negative behaviour but simply knowing this doesn’t help. You need to be able to sincerely convince yourself these thoughts you’re having are mostly untrue by examining the evidence for and against the thoughts you have, and thus lead yourself to feel less anxious. I fail at this last part, and i don’t really know why.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
LOL
LOL
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
hmmm intestsing
i …
hmmm intestsing
i knew this already after my counselling but i would say that people on the internet only talk about the cognitive side and positive thinking. as you say here the cognitive side needs to be strong positive thinking+the change in behaviour which equals new comfort zones. thats how CBT works, good video.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
After watching this …
After watching this, I finally realise why I’m still anxious after straneous training on public speaking some time ago. I was not anxious at that time. But am now. I tried drugging myself with strong coffee before any anxious related situations and it work sometimes. It made me feel ‘high’. I totally forget who I really was. Was I myself? I’m not sure. I don’t want to rely on coffee too much but recently I had it too often and my body seems not to react like it use to anymore.
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
I believe I have …
I believe I have both, Total and Subtle.
I skip school and all my classes constantly, i’d go a couple weeks without going back to school, I have both, i’m aware of. I do little things to avoid those situations as well. Such as being standoffish all the time … I hate this
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
listen to momo from …
listen to momo from the momozone acceptance video it explains a lot. In my experience good comes from within (your thoughts), you BELEIVE but beleive means there is no room for ohh i’m stupid, i can’t do it etc… After you beleive small things that you search will be good. like for example the world has also treated my like sh/t.. but i think it’s something good because it’s just an opportunity to show them how stupid they were for not realizing how great i am..
I’m sure you rock man!!!
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
*****THIS WORKS!*** …
*****THIS WORKS!*****
Do this: Stuff some earplugs in ur ears and go to big crowded places, or listen to ur ipod touch while walking around. Trust me it works great u cant even hear ppl making fun of you! and soon u become immune to the reality of being around ppl. after 3 weeks of doing that everyday for a mere 1 hour, let me tell you, you will be more sociable then you ever imagined possible! Try this: for faster results do this for 7 hours a day for 3 days.
*****THIS WORKS!*****
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
Janey, When we are …
Janey, When we are kids we sometimes take the words of adults too deeply. A parent might say “Joe ,why can’t you be good like your brother John?” Instead what we hear is “Your not good enough” Then we spend a lifetime trying to please everyone else, no confidence. As we age opportunities arrive, we don’t try 4 the better jobs, even if we are smart. Inside the head we still hear “Not good enough,why bother?” These are called false beliefs, They hold us back in life. U can get rid of them…EFT
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
Janey My name is …
Janey My name is Debi I had severe depression Anxiety/ PTSD for over 20 yrs. The worst was soaking wet nightmares. 18 months ago I learned EFT and haven’t had any symptoms, not a single nightmare etc It is free to learn Give it a try. Girlfriend I wish you the best (No more anti-depressants or anxiety meds too)
December 31st, 2009 at 8:42 pm
Thanks for sharing! …
Thanks for sharing! This video gave me some hope. I am going to look into getting some literature on CBT for socially anxious people…