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Should i work on my social anxiety before i start trying to make friends?

My anxiety makes it so hard for me to make friends but i do have a couple now but want to start making more. I think for right now i should focus on my anxiety and myself and the friends i do have. What do you think and what do you think i should do? If you have and tips on anxiety and making it better that would be good. Also if this matters i have a therapist and i am taking medicine.

This sounds like a great plan. It seems like you are ready to take some positive steps to help yourself.
Try making one friend at a time in a situation you feel comfortable with. Good Luck.

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5 Responses to “Should i work on my social anxiety before i start trying to make friends?”

  1. bhalloo jungle walla Says:
    April 18th, 2010 at 11:43 am

    Be social, your anxiety will be dimnished.
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  2. Dave Says:
    April 18th, 2010 at 12:00 pm

    Making new friends is hard if you have social anxiety or not, so don’t get yourself to down cause everyone feels the same way as you do. You should do both, keep contact with the friends you do have right now and at the same time keep improving your social skills by joining something and getting out there. Only way to beat your anxiety is getting to the root of the problem, that’s being more social. Now that your taking medication and it’s under control, your on your way to overcoming it by taking one step at a time.
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  3. ?????? Says:
    April 18th, 2010 at 12:08 pm

    Sometimes making friends can be an effective remedy for social anxiety. You, of course, will be nervous at first, but you’ll get the hang of it. Since you already have a few friends, I would recommend trying to get them to help you make friends. Explain the situation, they should be understanding if you tell them that you get nervous around other people, especially strangers, and they’d probably even be encouraging for you, which will help in leaps and bounds when dealing with a situation like this. If I had a friend, I’d be asking them for help making new friends. Having social anxiety myself has kept me from making friends, and my depression has pushed any that I did make away. Therapy and medication are great aides to making the anxiety ease some, so you’re on the right track. Just keep trying!!
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  4. Anele Says:
    April 18th, 2010 at 12:35 pm

    I think it is definitely possible to work on both simultaneously. Part of your social anxiety probably derives in part from lack of exposure to social situations (I could be wrong), so it would seem to make sense to try to put yourself in more social situations, to try to "desensitize" yourself a bit. You should definitely focus on building the friendships you already have, but it would probably be good practice to branch out a bit and meet new people, maybe online, like on a video chat site like http://www.6rounds.com : )
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  5. Hopefully Helpful Says:
    April 18th, 2010 at 1:17 pm

    This sounds like a great plan. It seems like you are ready to take some positive steps to help yourself.
    Try making one friend at a time in a situation you feel comfortable with. Good Luck.
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