What would be the correct person to go and see about a Separation Anxiety Disorder?
I have recently noticed that when I spend a day with my boyfriend and he leaves, I get really emotional, I start to cry and cry for days, I worry for him and it affects my daily life. It’s becoming a problem and I need to go and talk to someone, who would be the right person to talk to?
I have about three symptoms of a Separation Anxiety Disorder and I believe that is the issue at hand here.
Help and advice is majorly appreciated.
You will want to see a psychologist, or a physician that can properly diagnosis your ASAD.
If you want you should try keeping a wearable memorabilia of your boyfriend, so whenever he leaves you can look at the "thing" and gain satisfaction in the remembrance that with it, though space separates you two, your love always unites.
Also methods that cause feelings of self-security can be repeated and anxiety can be reduced.
If your anxiety cannot be helped in the ways mentioned, time-line psychoanalytic therapy will help you discover, and deal with your trust issues that cause you to feel this overwhelming sense of grief.
For a better Understanding:
1. http://www.chicagonow.com/blogs/sex-windy-city/2009/09/cant-bi-me-love-dealing-with-separation-anxiety.html
2. http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/separation_anxiety.html
3. http://anxietypanichealth.com/reference/separation-anxiety-disorder-adult/
March 19th, 2010 at 7:11 am
You will want to see a psychologist, or a physician that can properly diagnosis your ASAD.
If you want you should try keeping a wearable memorabilia of your boyfriend, so whenever he leaves you can look at the "thing" and gain satisfaction in the remembrance that with it, though space separates you two, your love always unites.
Also methods that cause feelings of self-security can be repeated and anxiety can be reduced.
If your anxiety cannot be helped in the ways mentioned, time-line psychoanalytic therapy will help you discover, and deal with your trust issues that cause you to feel this overwhelming sense of grief.
For a better Understanding:
1. http://www.chicagonow.com/blogs/sex-windy-city/2009/09/cant-bi-me-love-dealing-with-separation-anxiety.html
2. http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/separation_anxiety.html
3. http://anxietypanichealth.com/reference/separation-anxiety-disorder-adult/
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March 19th, 2010 at 7:50 am
Been there. That happens to us, the minority of the world, those who make emotional bonds incredibly quickly and really strong bonds. We can be with that person the whole day, for a whole week, for all the weeks of that month, an even more time, and yet, we don’t feel "bored" (like normal humans).
You’re feeling like that because the person you have made the bond with, in a way, completes you. And having that person removed from your life, will destroy that part of you, and you’re unable to have such a HUGE change in your life, and that’s why you’re getting anxious. You kinda imagine what would happen if he doesn’t come back, or if something happens in his way home, and you’ll end up alone, and the sensation kills you, and makes you highly anxious.
Personally I’ll say that a lot of people is going to say that this condition is BAD, and that you should try everything you can to destroy it, they’re going to tell you you’re sick or something. But believe me, there’s someone else out there, that will love you and will need you as much as you need him, luckily that person will be your current boyfriend.
It’s normal to get emotional about the person you love. He’s a part of you now. When you get sad and begin to cry, remember that he’ll come back. Always be positive, despite of everything. If for some funky reason, you two break up, I’m sure you’ll be devastated, but PLEASE REMEMBER THIS, all the relationships that you had (or that you will have), all those that broke (or will break) your heart, are just PREPARING you for your first true love.
Best of All. I hope I helped (I hope).
References :
Me. Broken Heart a Million Times. Eventually, I found the right one. And believe me, it was worth all the hearth-breaks I had, because now, my true love, is fixing my heart, piece by piece. And making me cry of joy everytime a piece is back in place. :,-)
March 19th, 2010 at 7:56 am
Hi Wolf, that sounds pretty tough what you’re going through. It’s my experience that this type of reaction is not going to be isolated to just your boyfriend being away from you. It’s going to show up in many aspects of your life including relations with friends and family. So, I’m happy to see that you’re going to get some help.
I prefer to work without labels such as "Separation Anxiety Disorder". It’s not necessary to getting the right kind of treatment anyway. In other words, you don’t need a diagnostic label to confirm something is severely troubling you. Of course, if you need a diagnosis to get your insurer to cover you then by all means go for it.
My recommendation is to seek out a therapist – and not limit yourself to only psychologists – and find one that you have a deep connection with.
We change an emotion by feeling our way through it – albeit feeling it in small doses. This is why a good connection is so essential. In the comfort of a strong therapeutic relationship we can feel safe enough to allow ourselves to feel the hurts that run deep. This is what we’re learning from neuroscience.
If your therapist is ill-equipped to help you move through these feelings (not all therapists are comfortable with emotion), then I believe your chances of moving out of your abandonment fears will be much less and certainly less than what you truly deserve.
Best,
Go4Counseling
P.S. I’ve listed an article I thought you might find helpful.
http://www.myshrink.com/counseling-theory.php?t_id=7
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