Stop Anxiety and Panic Attacks

I get so down over everything. I am a very sensitive and loving person so i think this is why. A friend today said she doesn’t think our friendship is doing anyone any favours because she had said i can talk to her about anything,and i have…but it’s negative stuff(when i am down) and it’s made her stress and everything which is why she wants space and all. I fully understand but why did she say she would always be there in the first place? And i love and care about her….so how is that easy for me to move on and does that mean she has just forgotten about me?

I don’t have a session with my psychologist booked until May and i want help online as i don’t really like talking especially to a stranger on a helpline…but i could deal with it online.
I always seem to be too nice- and it’s just who i am. Even if a friend does wrong, i may stand up for myself but then it makes them mad so i feel bad and i end up being sorry. Why can’t i just be strong?
and it’s like my brain is chemically wired to be negative as i find it so difficult to see the positive sides of things and i hate school now. At 16 and in my 2nd last year, i just can’t be bothered. School means nothing to me yet i have so much pressure to have to do well but i can’t keep up. I have all these thoughts in my head but i can never put them down on paper or i am not concentrating as i am day dreaming or thinking about problems to do with life itself.

I think about death a lot, not that i would have the guts to do anything but i know it isn’t normal.
I think that people don’t care about me, and if i died maybe they would finally appreciate me because no one seems to but i don’t think i will ever stop being the person that i am because i love to make people smile and happy.

You know, a lot of people at your age get quite depressed over life. I don’t think it’s unusual and I think it is a number of reasons. At 16 your body is still going through lots of changes in terms of hormones. It might make you feel quite emotional at times. Another reason is realizing that you are practically an adult and that your childhood days are over.

Also, you say you like to make other people happy. They say those are the people who are often most depressed. Maybe you are spending too much time trying to make others happy and they are assuming that you have no problems so they aren’t really supporting you. I’m sure if they realized how you feel they would be concerned for you, because I’m sure they appreciate you. They are just not making it very obvious.

I really believe you can overcome this depression though. I think you just need to really spend some of your time reflecting on what specifically is making you feel so bad. If it is your friends, then perhaps you might consider leaving them. School is almost over anyway, you’ll make new friends soon. If it is something else that is making you miserable you need to figure out what it is and what you can do to change it.

You are 16 and you have a life full of exciting things waiting for you. There are many surprises in store for you, not all good unfortunately, but still, I think of life as one exciting adventure. I can’t imagine feeling depressed about having a future, because a future holds so many wonderful things. You’re still very young, but you are going to have so many great opportunities ahead for relationships, jobs and interests. There is heaps to look forward to, you just need some help remembering that..

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